Wedding stationery etiquette can be quite confusing. There are so many details you have to remember like what to include, what to say, how to say it, and when to send them. Below are some answers to your most pressing wedding stationery related questions. Be sure to grab our Wedding Stationery Guide!
1. What is a Save the Date?
Save the Dates are totally optional and are a newer trend. They are meant to give your guests a heads up for a wedding invitation from you soon. Save the Dates should be sent out 9-12 months in advance, but less than 6 months. If you are having a destination wedding, or a lot of out of town guests, you should send your Save the Dates out sooner.
2. How many invitations do I need?
Many people get confused here. Typically, you will send one invitation per household and not per guest. Roommates get their own invitations. It’s a good idea to order 10-20 extra invitations incase some get lost in the mail, to keep as a keepsake, to give to your photographer, etc.
3. When do I need to order my invitations?
Wedding invitations should be ordered around 6 months before your wedding. You want to make sure there is plenty of time to design and produce, check for errors, and receive your invitations before you can even send them to your guests.
4. What information needs to be included on the invitations?
At minimum you should include who, where and when.
- Date + Time
- Reception Information
5. When should I send out my invitations?
Invitations should go out 8-10 weeks before the wedding. You want to give your guests plenty of time to make arrangements for travel and work. If you are having a destination wedding, give guests more time to plan their travels and send them out 3 months ahead of time.
6. How do I let guests know about attire?
You can list your attire information at the bottom of your invitations or on your details or insert card.
7. Who should get a “plus-one”?
You can choose to give everyone a plus one or leave it to single guests, guests in a serious relationship, or guests who you believe would enjoy your wedding more with a plus one.
8. When should RSVPs be due back?
Your RSVP by date can vary depending on your vendors and when they need a final head count. It is a good idea to require a response between 2-4 weeks before you wedding day.
9. Where do you put the return address on wedding invitations?
The return address usually goes on the back flap, be sure to make it smaller than the mailing address so the mailing machines do not mistake it. For the RSVP return envelope, use the address of whoever you have decided to receive your responses and include adequate postage.
10. When should we send wedding Thank You Cards?
You should send thank you notes as you receive gifts, even if it is before you wedding. For gifts received at the wedding, it is good to send thank you notes within 2 months of your wedding date.